I Guess I Asked For It

Don’t you just love it when people who don’t even know you or know very much about you give you critical advice that you MUST follow or you’ll regret it?  I’m still stewing over a situation I got myself into today and have moved from kind of hurt to pissed off.

Miles is having some minor health issues and I thought I’d hop onto my local Weston A. Price Foundation listserve to find out what their thoughts were on traditional, nourishing foods to address the problems and help heal him.  After all, I’m  big believer in food being our medicine.

So, silly me, once I explained the current situation, I checked back eagerly throughout the day to see what people might have to say.  And lo and behold what they had to say was this:

I am “allowing” my child to only eat certain foods.

My child is a picky eater.

I need to “nip” his “picky eating habits” in the bud or I’ll “regret it” later.

Definitely don’t allow him to snack during the day, 3 squares and that’s it

and, my personal favorite so far

I should just serve him his dinner and if he doesn’t like it he can eat again at breakfast.  (oh, yes? really?  feel free to come to my house at 1:37 a.m. when he wakes up crying from an empty belly and YOU be the one to get up with him, feed him and then get him back to sleep. or not. because maybe he won’t be ABLE to get back to sleep for another 3 hours. feel free to just come and do that. that’s fine.)

First of all, all I asked for was some dietary advice.  I thought this was the Weston A Price group, NOT the James Dobson group.

Secondly, you have no idea about me as a parent but even more specifically about my son and the type of child he is.

I pick my battles with my son.  They are many. He is persistent. I pick the ones that I have the most chance of winning.  The rest is a non-issue.

My son doesn’t like green beans?  What do I care?  He eats curry!

It’s not that he’s picky, he just could care less about food.  He’d much rather play hungry than sit and eat and not play.   And that’s what he does. Unless I remind him to eat…and remind him..and remind him…and cajole…and sit there…and finally put the food into his mouth….and 45 minutes later he’s eaten a 1/4 cup of oatmeal.

Who has time for that?

I make sure that the things he likes best are of the best quality I can afford and if he won’t eat onions, well, I for one am not going to get my knickers in a twist.

This child is more persistent than 3 kids put together.  Someday I’m sure that will be a good thing.  Right now, as his mother, it seriously drives me to the brink sometimes.  Look, YOU KNOW how he is if you’ve read this blog from a few years back…go refresh your memory if you need to, I’ll wait.

So he has a limited menu of likes?  He can freaking READ and WRITE.  So stuff it, ladies.  Don’t judge me, don’t judge my son. If you don’t have anything actually useful to say, don’t waste my time with your preachy drivel. Go away and ferment something but leave me alone.



5 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Emily
    Aug 16, 2011 @ 19:42:06

    Sorry you didn’t get the help you needed! We too are battling some food issues with child #1. I’ve never had a picky eater out of him and now it’s like pulling teeth to get him to eat anything but meat and meat. I guess that isn’t all bad but sometimes I wish something green would enter his mouth. I’m trying to choose my battles too.

    Hang in there..someday he’ll want to eat. Until then, just keep picking those battles. ((HUGS))


    • ~m
      Aug 19, 2011 @ 20:06:05

      Well, meat is good. but still, food battles are unpleasant. i don’t think anything colorful has passed Miles lips since he started realizing he could refuse. just kidding. kind of. you’re right, tho. we have to pick our battles and food isn’t one of them. I remember reading a book from the LLL library called My Child Won’t Eat and it was saying how kids stomachs’ are pretty small and their bodies want to get the biggest caloric bang for their buck so meat is one way to do that since fruits and veggies, while necessary, are not as many calories. maybe that’s what’s going on with you guys? i’m sure they’ll both end up eating everything in the house in a couple years from now tho… 🙂


  2. Sharon
    Sep 05, 2011 @ 10:01:07

    Good on you, as the Brits would say, for choosing your battles. I remember when Stephanie was 2 or 3, how I became overly concerned about some habit she had developed. (I don’t even remember what it was anymore.) An older, wiser mother said to me, “Will she be still doing that when she’s 18? I think not. So don’t worry about it.” Best parenting advice I ever received, used it to help me choose battles for the rest of her time at home.


  3. Sharon
    Sep 12, 2011 @ 08:33:49

    Did you leave out a “do”? in that question? (Trying to figure out what you were asking…) If so, now that she’s an adult, I decide when I need to say what I think/feel for my own sake since her decisions are her own to make, and then I pray like mad that she wll listen to wise counsel (insofar as I am wise, which is not all that much…)


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